The termites of Impressed Awe (Part 2 )
In continuation of our talk from part 1 of the article, it is most important to recognise this disease as a disease. We think of it as something small and something normal, although it is not. These feelings of impressed awe are eating our brain potentials as termites eat the wood. It is eating our dignity and our confidence as an Ummah. The first step is to recognize it and then train ourselves to take every good thing as a blessing from ALLAH. Hamd and wow impressions should be only for ALLAH.
Why it is important to know limits for loving and admiring humans?
This question has a very simple answer anything out of moderation is harmful.
In non-realistic admiration, often we forget to humanize the other person we admire, in any relation.
Human beings are exposed everywhere every day to different circumstances. We are not the same every day, we decide according to our state affairs, mood, and state of mind on that specific day.
Expecting a person similar best and ideal every single day is in fact, very unjustified. Not only does it make relationships bitter but lives get complicated too.
The other side of this picture is impressed craze from someone we admire without keeping any self-respect and honor for ourselves. No relationship is healthy without the existence of respect. Even if that is the relationship we carry with our kids and younger ones, our household helpers, our siblings, and our spouses, respect is the first rule to be followed in every single relationship. Respect for both sides. Yours and others.
The love and admiration without an upper limit is suitable only to ALLAH. For all other relations, a healthy limit is keeping admirations, expectations, and behaviors at a human level. What does it mean? Give yourself and others one space for errors, mistakes, wrong decisions, wrong judgment of happenings, and human weak moments. Any healthy and normal relationship is an exception to this level.
Other than relationships the worst type of awe is that of wealth. An entity that is written by ALLAH for someone, saying it as a credit of his/her success or talent is unfair. I am not going into details about how wealth impresses people, but the only thing important is to watch our feelings in this aspect.
An impressed wow to any type defined before conveying this clear message that we did not recognize our Rab truly yet.
He is the One who blessed people with wealth, beauty, higher position, and an awesome success in this life. Every blessing comes with a test scenario. Right, so can we say the admiration infused wow for someone involved in an ongoing serious test?
It is not bad to appreciate and compliment anyone's goodness simply. But making this a reason to be impressed, influenced, and feeling myself lower than that person is not right at personal and professional levels. It may show a low confidence level which is again opposite to what ALLAH wants us to be. A Muslim relies upon ALLAH at all times and believes that everything good comes from ALLAH. Whatever well is written for us will come to us soon and our honor is in staying happy with ALLAH's blessings and showing thankful by improving on what talents and characters ALLAH has given us. Our honor is in following ALLAH's Rasul Muhammad ﷺ who does not get impressed with anyone in his life and doesn't get weaker in front of anyone to say words of ALLAH.
