Self Awareness Part ‘2’ Being Kind to Myself
Let us reconnect the story of “My Dear Self” and the quest of knowing myself for bigger benefits which we considered in part one of this series. The last thing we concluded was “Knowing ALLAH more, remembering Him, and going closer to Him will make us closer to our own selves. That will make us more aware of ourselves.”
Being a star creature in ALLAH’s created beautiful world, it is important to know how I deal with myself. How good my relationship with myself, broadly depends upon :
How much do I respect myself?
How much and Why I am Important?
ALLAH has honored us by simply making us humans. He took careful care of us throughout and no harm reached us until He allowed and decided. He blessed us and gave us a brain that can work wonders when focused on the right way. This respect is for every single human as a baseline, without any addition in it for any differences we have in our lives. So I am respected in this universe of ALLAH.
This does not mean that we are respected when we don’t respect anything. Our conduct is important and every respect comes with responsibility. This respect comes with the weighted responsibility of understanding ourselves, our Rab, the secrets of this life, and that we need to secure our good place in the next life by using this life-duration with care.
Not only I am respected but I am important in this universe of ALLAH as well.
I am important as I have an assigned role. I am not created and sent here without purpose. That purpose I carry makes me important.
If I don’t bother in my life about why ALLAH made me and what is my purpose, instead I am busy in PlayStation, filling my wallet with credit cards, or overloading my wardrobes with dresses and shoes, I am the defaulter tool of this universe. ALLAH will still tolerate me being my Loving Rab and He keeps on giving me chances and signs to make me realize my importance. But think about someone sitting on an assigned task role to complete it in a limited period, and he is not doing that, instead, he is only doing haphazard things around the actual task, will this be something likable for any honest and responsible person? We would say this is corruption.
So, when I take my respect and give myself the right importance for the right reason then it is much needed to be kind to myself. I deserve softness and I deserve polite words before I give them to others.
Usually, many of us don’t give ourselves time and space which is equal to building up an invisible bundle of heavy rocks over our heads. That burden will keep on increasing in weight.
I will be patient with myself and will talk in friendly words.
How do I talk to my dear friend with love?
Yes, we don’t say fancy words to each other when we are longtime dear friends but our tone is friendly and infused with an essence of love naturally.
I need to use the exactly same tone for myself, with a lighter mood, space, and flexibility instead of rudeness, stiffness, and cruelty.
Let us practice from today onward a friendly quiet “talk to myself”.
Let it be brief and charming. How our brains get enlightened and feel lighter when we talk to a beloved friend.
Likewise, ask yourself softly “Hey! How was the day” and say some words of encouragement to your sweet self.
Until we get back to you with the next part :)
In sha ALLAH.
