Self-Awareness Part ‘3’ - It’s Good to Ask “Myself”
We covered in the last part how to friendly talk to “Myself”. I want to thank you for the feedback I personally received for this series. Much Obliged.
While going forward, the most essential thing to know is what is fruitful to ask myself and why. Let us see these simple questions to understand them stepwise.
So, the first important thing is to know “What actually my feeling is”. The human brain is not straightforward and emotions are combined in the form of ‘a mesh’. It is not easy to separate them and name them on many occasions but this exercise in Step One makes things much simpler and much clearer to go ahead with. So, “Name the emotion”? What it is.
Once it is known that “what”- the next query is “why”.
While asking myself why I am feeling like this, I may also get more than one answer, but the door to go ahead is focusing on the most vital “why” and eliminating others that are not that important. That is so very critical to know. I cannot insist on this one enough. This is the key to solving the riddle just after simplifying the mesh of emotions that were tied together.
ALLAH Subhanahu wa Ta’ala asked us in the Quran “Do they not concentrate and think about themselves?” The prime part of ourselves is our brain, the brain power that no one can ignore. At Step Two Let us practice these questions in our daily lives to make them part of our routines.
The first dealing with any given matter at any given time should be done “inside me” before it goes outside, either through my expression, body language or by my words.
This third step is as essential as the previous two. It is done by asking myself the most appropriate plan of action “How I am going to deal with it”
The plan of action deal that I made with myself will be important in the long term. This Step Three wholly depends upon my wishes and my way to take over the matter, until it is aligned with the rules ALLAH has set for me. It should not hurt myself or anyone else in the short term or long term as far as I can take care, I need to do my best.
To agree with Myself will save time and energy. If I am consistent and clear about steps 1,2, and 3, then my new step is just a matter of putting together all of them. The Fourth Step is to keep a check on my satisfaction and agreement with my dealing plan.
Before we go to the final step, in the final part of our series, we need to take time and practice. Let us start doing it daily to learn the process. Only initially starting it and making it a part of the routine will be a bit difficult but then it becomes easier with time, patience, and practice. The significance of this practice is many fold but the best thing to happen is a very practical, clear, and focused approach to our lives and decisions. We hope it will ultimately make lives simpler, by the grace of ALLAH - may He be praised and exalted.
